Chifukwa chiyani kugwira ntchito pamodzi kuli kolimba kuposa kukhala wekha?

Dontho ndi nyanja

Pa tsiku lotentha, dontho limodzi lili pa mwala limatha mu mphindi zochepa. Nyanja siitha. Yapangidwa ndi madzi omwewo, koma agwirana pamodzi, ndipo nyanja zimapereka gawo lalikulu kwambiri la okisijeni padziko lapansi, nthawi zambiri limanenedwa kuti ndi pafupifupi theka. Palibe chasintha pa dontho. Chasintha ndi chakuti silili lokha.

Anthu ali ngati zimenezo pang'ono. Tili tokha, timatopa, timakayikira, timaleka. Tili pamodzi, ambiri a ife timapeza kuti n'kosavuta kupitiriza. Si lingaliro losangalatsa chabe. Ofufuza alifufuza, ndipo zimene anapeza ndi zoyenera kudziwa.

Poyamba, ndi bwino kuzindikira kuti tili kale mbali ya chinthu chogawana. Mphepo imasakaniza mlengalenga nthawi zonse, choncho mpweya umene mukukoka lero ukhoza kuti posachedwapa unali pamwamba pa kontinenti ina. Akatswiri a sayansi ya fizikisi apereka ngakhale kuyesera kwa m'maganizo: mu mpweya uliwonse wa ife muli mwina mamolekyulu ochokera mu mpweya umene unakokedwa kale ndi aliyense amene anakhalako kalekale, mwachitsanzo Caesar. Ndi kuwerengera kwa kuyerekeza, osati muyeso. Komabe kumapereka chithunzi. Aliyense wa ife waima mu nyanja imodzi ya mpweya.

Zimene kafukufuku akunena za kuchita zinthu pamodzi

Mu 2009 Wiltermuth ndi Heath anafalitsa kafukufuku mu Psychological Science wokhudza zimene zimachitika anthu akachita zinthu mogwirizana. Otenga nawo mbali amene anachita chinthu pamodzi, monga kuyenda kapena kuimba, pambuyo pake anali okonzeka kwambiri kugwirizana, kuphatikizapo ndi anthu osawadziwa. Kungoyenda mogwirizana kunaoneka kupangitsa anthu kukhala okonzeka kugwira ntchito pambali pa wina ndi mnzake.

Timasamala ndi zotsatirazi. Sizikunena kuti ntchito iliyonse ya gulu imakonza chilichonse. Zikunena kuti kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi ena kunapangitsa anthu kukhala otseguka kwambiri kugwirizana pambuyo pake. Ndi zotsatira zachiyembekezo, chifukwa zikusonyeza kuti nthawi imodzi yogawana ingakhale yokwanira poyamba.

Mphindi pa nthawi yogawana ndi mtundu wofewa wa lingaliro lomwelo: anthu ambiri akuchita chinthu chimodzi chosavuta chabata pa nthawi imodzi, aliyense kumalo kwake. Sitingathe kunena kuti mphindiyo ili ndi zotsatira zofanana ndi za kafukufukuyo. Tingathe kunena kuti mawonekedwe ake ndi ofanana: chochita chosavuta chochitidwa mogwirizana ndi ena.

Chifukwa chake zili zofunika tsopano

Malinga ndi lipoti la 2025 la Komiti ya WHO Yoona za Ubale wa Anthu (WHO Commission on Social Connection), munthu mmodzi mwa anthu asanu ndi mmodzi alionse padziko lapansi amasungulumwa. Ikani izi pambali pa chiwerengero cha anthu pafupifupi mabiliyoni 8 padziko lapansi, ndipo ndi anthu ambiri kwambiri omwe angakhale okha ndi maganizo awo pakali pano. Panthawi yomweyo, anthu awiri aliwonse a ife timagawana pafupifupi 99.9 peresenti ya DNA yathu, mawu amene mabungwe ofufuza za DNA ya anthu amawabwereza kwambiri. Tikufanana kwambiri kuposa momwe kudzimva wekha kungasonyezere.

Mphindi yogawana ndi mphindi ya kuthokoza nayonso. Mu kafukufuku wa 2003 wa Emmons ndi McCullough, anthu amene nthawi zonse ankalemba zimene amathokoza nthawi zambiri ananena kuti amamva bwino kuposa magulu oyerekezera. Ndi zotsatira zodzichepetsa, ndipo sitilonjeza zoposa zimene zikusonyeza.

Momwe dontho limalowa mu nyanja

Kukhala pamodzi sikufuna siteji. Kungakhale kochepa kwambiri. Nayi mawonekedwe ake osavuta:

• Mumasankha nthawi imodzi yofanana kwa aliyense: 11:11 nthawi ya kwanuko.
• Mumatenga mphindi imodzi ya bata ndi kuthokoza chifukwa cha mpweya wanu.
• Mumadziwa kuti anthu a m'madera ena a nthawi akuchita chimodzimodzi, dera limodzi pambuyo pa lina.
• Mumaitana munthu mmodzi amene mumamusamala, ndipo bwalo limakula ndi mmodzi.

Palibe amene ayenera kukuonani. Palibe amene ayenera kuvomerezana nanu pa china chilichonse. Gawo logawana ndi laling'ono ndi lomveka, ndipo ndiko kumene limatsegulira anthu ambiri.

Dontho limodzi limauma. Madontho mamiliyoni amapanga nyanja. Mphindi yanu pa 11:11 ndi dontho lanu.