Chifukwa chiyani kuolowa manja kuli kofunika? Yambani ndi nthawi ndi chidwi

Zimene tingapereke kwenikweni

Kuolowa manja nthawi zambiri kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi ndalama ndi mphatso. Komabe zinthu zimene timazikonda kwambiri ndi zosiyana. Nthawi ndi yochepa kwa aliyense wa ife, ndipo chidwi n'chovuta kupereka chonse, chifukwa zinthu zambiri zimachifuna tsiku lililonse. Nthawi sitingaisunge ndi kuibwezera. Tikapereka ola limodzi, latha kwa ife, ndipo ndichifukwa chake ndi mphatso yeniyeni.

Munthu akakupatsani ola limodzi la chidwi chake chonse, mumakumbukira. Foni yoikidwa pambali, funso limene linamvetseredwa kwenikweni, kuyenda kopanda changu: mphatso zotere sizifuna ndalama koma zimatanthauza zambiri.

Ganizirani anthu amene anakupatsani nthawi yawo pamene munaifuna: mphunzitsi amene anatsalira kusukulu itatha, mnansi amene anakhala nanu, bwenzi limene linaitana kungofuna kudziwa mmene muli. Mwina simukumbukira mawu awo. Mumakumbukira kuti anali pamenepo.

Chifukwa chake kuolowa manja kuli kofunika

Chifukwa chiyani kuolowa manja kuli kofunika? Yankho limodzi ndi lakuti anthu ambiri amanyamula masiku awo okha. Malinga ndi Komiti ya WHO Yoona za Ubale wa Anthu (WHO Commission on Social Connection, 2025), munthu mmodzi mwa anthu asanu ndi mmodzi alionse padziko lapansi amasungulumwa. Kwa ena a iwo, nthawi yochepa yochokera kwa munthu wina ingakhale chimene chikusowa.

Yankho lina limachokera ku kuthokoza. Mu kafukufuku wa 2003 wa Emmons ndi McCullough, anthu amene nthawi zonse ankalemba zimene amathokoza nthawi zambiri ananena kuti amamva bwino kuposa magulu oyerekezera. Kuolowa manja ndi kuthokoza zimayendera limodzi: mukazindikira kuchuluka kwa zimene mwapatsidwa, n'zachibadwa kupereka kanthu mobwezera. Kuolowa manja sikufunanso kubwezeredwa ndipo sikusunga mawerengero. Mukagawana nthawi yanu osayembekezera kalikonse, mphatsoyo imakhala yopepuka kwa anthu onse awiri.

Yankho lachitatu ndi losavuta. Padziko lapansi pali anthu pafupifupi mabiliyoni 8, ndipo anthu awiri aliwonse a ife timagawana pafupifupi 99.9 peresenti ya DNA yathu. Tikufanana kwambiri kuposa momwe tikusiyanirana. Kugawana ndi munthu wina ndiko kugawana ndi munthu wopangidwa pafupifupi ngati inu. Kuitana nakonso ndi mtundu wa chidwi: kuitana munthu ndiko kunena kuti, ndakuganizira.

Kupereka kumakhala kosavuta pamodzi

Mu kafukufuku wa Wiltermuth ndi Heath (Psychological Science, 2009), anthu amene anachita zinthu mogwirizana, mwachitsanzo poyenda kapena kuimba, pambuyo pake anali okonzeka kwambiri kugwirizana, kuphatikizapo ndi anthu osawadziwa.

Zikuoneka kuti kuchita chinthu pambali pa wina, mu mphindi imodzi, kumapangitsa kuti kuchitira ena zabwino kotsatira kukhale kosavuta. Anthu awiri akavomereza kuchita chinthu chimodzi chaching'ono nthawi imodzi, palibe amene amachinyamula yekha. Sitepe yoyamba imakhala yosavuta, ndipo yachiwiri imatsatira mwachibadwa.

Njira zitatu zazing'ono zopereka nthawi ndi chidwi

Kuolowa manja sikufuna ndondomeko kapena ndalama zambiri. Kumangofuna chisankho chokhala nawo kamphindi. Nazi njira zitatu zazing'ono zoyambira lero.

• Ikani foni yanu pambali pa nthawi ya kukambirana kumodzi.
• Funsani munthu mmodzi kuti ali bwanji, kenako dikirani yankho.
• Itanani munthu amene mumamukonda kuchita chinthu chosavuta pamodzi, monga mphindi imodzi ya bata.

Sankhani imodzi. Chaching'ono chikakhala chaching'ono, m'pamenenso mungachichite ndi kuchibwereza. Zochita zazing'ono zobwerezedwa ndi momwe kuolowa manja kumakhalira chizolowezi.