6. Zokhumba

Chowonadi nchakuti, pamsinkhu woyambirira kwambiri wa zenizeni zathu zakuthupi, pamsinkhu wa fiziki ya kwantamu, ndiko kuti «muto wa kwantamu» wa zotheka zonse, tizigawo tonse timene timapanga dziko lathu lakuthupi, timabadwa (timatuluka m’«muto wa kwantamu») tili pawiri pamodzi ndi zomwe zimatchedwa tizigawo-zotsutsana (nkhani yoyambirira). Ndipo tizigawo-zotsutsana timeneti, pokhala ndi kulemera kosalongosoka ndi kunyamula mphamvu yosalongosoka (ya chizindikiro chosiyana), zikuimira kusonyezedwa kwakuthupi kwa zokhumba zathu. Kotero, tizigawo tonse timabadwa tili pawiri: chigawo ndi chigawo-chotsutsana, ndiko kuti chilichonse m’dziko lino chilipo kokha mwa maanja pamodzi ndi zokhumba zofanana nazo. Ndipo kuchokera apa pakubwera mfundo ziwiri zodabwitsa kwambiri.

Yoyamba: zokhumba zonse zakwaniritsidwa kale, sizingatheke kukhala mwanjira ina, – molingana ndi fiziki ya kwantamu, panthawi imene chikhumbo (chinthu-chotsutsana) chikubadwa, pamodzi ndi icho chimabadwanso chinthu chakuthupi (mphamvu), chomwe chikufanana ndendende ndi chikhumbocho. Izo sizingakhalepo popanda chimzake.

Mfundo yachiwiri, yotuluka pa yoyamba: chilichonse chimene chili m’dziko lako, ndi zotsatira za zokhumba zako ndi zako zokha, palibe wina aliyense amene «ali ndi mlandu» pa zimenezi. Vuto nchakuti ife, posadziwa izi (kapena kunena molondola, pokhulupirira zosiyana, kuti chilichonse chimapezeka kokha mwa ntchito yovuta), ife, posakhulupirira kusalemera kumeneku, pamene tinali ndi zokhumba zina, tidadziponya modzipereka kuti tizikwaniritse – polimbana ndi

dziko, kupinda zochitika, kuwononga mphamvu zambiri pa zimenezi – mphamvu imene inalenga kale zonse zokhumbidwa, koma mwa kufunitsitsa kwathu kukwaniritsa zinthu, tinalanda mphamvuyi kuchokera ku zolengedwa kale, kuitsanulira pa zochita zosafunikira, pa nkhondo – pa kupeza ndalama, pa kuika zolinga, pa zolinga zamumtima, kupanga mapulani ndi kuyesa kuwakwaniritsa, kulinganiza anthu ndi chuma, pa kulamulira ndi zopindula ndi zina zotero.

Chotsatira chake, tinalanda mphamvu ku zokhumba zomwe zinali zitakwaniritsidwa kale m'zinthu zakuthupi, ndipo izo zinasungunuka m'dziko lathu lenileni. M’malo mwake panabwera phokoso lambiri, zinthu zambiri «zofunika» – koma zopanda phindu lililonse – koma panalibe kukhazikitsidwa kwa chikhumbo chenicheni: mphamvu inawonongeka pachabe. Izi, kumbali yake, zinabala zokhumba zambiri zotsutsana mkati mwa chidziwitso chathu. Nthawi ndi nthawi, pomanga mapulani ndi kukhumudwa poyesa kuwakwaniritsa, tinawunjika kutopa kwamkati, mkwiyo kwa iwo «amene anatilakwira», kulakwa chifukwa cha «zolakwa zathu», zimene tinafotokozera chifukwa chake sizinayende nthawi ino, manyazi chifukwa cha kulephera kwathu, mantha kuti sizingayendenso, ndi zina zotero, zomwe zinabala zokhumba zina zosiyana kwambiri, zosagwirizana ndi zokhumba zoyambirira, zowona za moyo wathu – chikhumbo chotsimikizira chinachake kwa wina, chikhumbo chodzilungamitsa, chikhumbo chodzilanga Iwe mwini, chikhumbo chosakhala ndi kalikonse kuti usakhale ndi udindo, chikhumbo cha ulesi ndi kusachita kalikonse, kusunga zotsala za mphamvu, chikhumbo chobisala kwa aliyense, ngakhale chikhumbo cha kufa kuti «utsuke manyazi»...

Ndipo zokhumba zamseri izi (ndiko kuti zosadziwika ndi ife) zinkalimbana ndi zoyambitsa zathu zonse zatsopano. Zinzanso, monga chinthu-chotsutsana, zinabala zinthu zakuthupi zofananira nazo: kuyambitsa zochitika zofananira m'moyo wathu – matenda, ngongole, maudindo osakwaniritsidwa, kutaya mbiri yabwino, milandu yakukhoti ndi yaumbanda, kukakamizidwa ndi mphamvu, mikangano, ziwawa, ululu wambiri wamalingaliro, kuvutika ndipo, pamapeto pake, imfa, ndipo tinafunika kumenyera nkhondo osati kukwaniritsidwa kwa zokhumba, koma moyo wathu wokha. Ndipo ngakhale tidayambitsa tokha zonsezi m'moyo wathu, zidawoneka kwa ife ngati dziko lina lankhanza komanso lowopsa linkayesa kutiwononga. Ndipo timafuna kuteteza zathu, kubwezera, kuwononga «mdani», ngakhale panalibe mdani wina pano kupatula ife eni.

Chotsatira chake, mkati mwathu, m'chidziwitso chathu, munapangidwa zokhumba zambiri zotsutsana, zomwe, ngati bakha, nkhanu ndi nsomba yankhanza, zinkakoka «ngolo» ya moyo wathu mbali zosiyanasiyana.

Tichite chiyani? Tiyenera kuphunzira kuthana ndi mikangano yonse yamkati yomwe yawunjikana ndipo pang'onopang'ono kuyeretsa chidziwitso chathu ku zizolowezi zowononga za makhalidwe ndi kupanga zisankho, mapulogalamu amseri ndi zokhumba zotsutsana, zomwe zimayambitsa mapulogalamu odziwononga ndi kumenyana ndi Iwe mwini. Tiyenera kubweretsa mgwirizano pakati pa «nkhanu ndi nsomba» ndi «mabakha» athu. Ndipo kuphunzira, potsiriza, kuwona,

kuti zokhumba zonse zakwaniritsidwa kale, ndipo sizikufuna kuyesetsa kulikonse kuchokera kwa ife, ndipo zochita zathu zimangofunika chifukwa cha chilengedwe, osati zopindula, chifukwa chikhumbo cha kulenga, kulenga pamodzi wina ndi mnzake, ndi zokhumba zodziyimira pawokha za moyo wathu, zomwe zimalenganso pansi pawo mikhalidwe yonse yofunikira, kuti tithe kudziwonetsa ngati olenga ndi monga omanga – izi ndi zokhumbanso zowona za moyo wathu, ndipo izi ndi zomwe zikufuna kuwonetsedwa kwathu, zochita zathu, ndipo mwa zokhumba izi mphamvu yofananira imabadwanso – iyi ndi mphamvu ya kudzoza, chisangalalo, kutentha kwa chilengedwe ndi zolimbikitsa za moyo ku mgwirizano ndi anthu amaganizo amodzi, olenga nawo.

Choncho, bwenzi langa, Iwe sungade nkhawa chifukwa chakuti popeza zokhumba zako zonse zakwaniritsidwa kale, Iwe «sudzakhala ndi chochita chilichonse». M'malo mwake, polandira zokhumba zako monga zokwaniritsidwa, Iwe udzamasulidwa ku kufunika kopezera ndalama, kupinda zenizeni, kulamulira, kusokoneza ena ndi kukwaniritsa, udzamasulidwa – chifukwa cha kukhazikitsidwa kwa zokhumba zowona za moyo wako – chifukwa cha Chilengedwe, Chikondi ndi Kumvana kwa Chowonadi Chamitundumitundu – tsogolo lako lowona, lomwe lokha limatichititsa kukhala osangalala, chifukwa limagwirizana ndi chibadwidwe chathu chowona – ndipo pamenepo Iwe udzatha kukhazikitsa Kuthekera Kwako Kwapamwamba Kwambiri – ngati munthu-wolenga, ngati mulungu wamoyo m'thupi, ngati chiwonetsero chapadera cha Mulungu Mmodzi, Moyo Umodzi m'maonekedwe ako aumunthu osabwerezedwa, mwa chitsanzo chamoyo ukukhazikitsa maloto a Moyo Wamuyaya. Pakuti Iwe sudzakhalanso

ndi chifukwa chofa, popeza chikhumbo cha imfa chidzachiritsidwa ndi Iwe, ndipo chikhumbo cha moyo, Moyo Weniweni, chidzalimba kokha ndi kukhazikitsidwa m'chenicheni cha Kukhalapo Kosatha.

Izi si nthano chabe. Izi ndi zenizeni. Pakuti zokhumba zako zonse zakwaniritsidwa kale. Kodi zenizeni zako zamakono zalengedwa ndi zokhumba ziti? Kodi Iwe ungathe kuzizindikira?